From Misery, With Love.

Mehrin Afrin Aysha
2 min readFeb 2, 2020

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Grievance, sorrow, and misery have always been considered words of great weight as if just the sheer utterance of these words has the power to weigh you down to your knees, bend you down to half your height, or even worse- cause you a “word-attack”. But the cunning part about misery (or any other negative word), is that it has ONLY one effect WHICH can drive you to two different directions, either drive you to misery’s cousin- sorrow, maybe to it’s half-sister- despair, or sometimes it’s grandmother- depression. Or push you to break the shackles of this messed-up family tree and actually stand up for yourself. And perhaps sometimes, you need a little push from misery’s childhood enemy, inspiration.

The reality check

Without even realizing it, we go on giving few of these words the wisdom and power they don’t even possess, the unspoken potential to control us. On an elaborative note, try replacing “happy” with “misery” and see the difference! You’re bound to notice a drastic change in the whole context, the tone, the expression, and how powerless the word itself becomes. Without our channeling these words and putting them into the right emotion’s cup, these words are as insignificant as blank paper in the exam hall. Instead of sparing these insignificant words for novels and fiction writing purposes, we let them spare our “space of peace”. Not only that, just by hearing these words, we let ourselves and our morale shrink without examining the dangerous control they’re slowly expanding upon us. We often tend to use these words to glorify pessimism in disguise and double the sufferings we might already be dealing with at moments.

So, what now?

We have uplifted them to pedestrians they don’t deserve to sit on, to mountains and heights they could’ve never climbed up to, to benchmarks they themselves could’ve never set. All I’m asking is to change your attitude towards yourself, your emotions, and just as much towards these words. Take control of the good emotions and the bad. Without stopping midway to ornament these unsettled emotions with weighted words, invest the effort to keep the train going, en route to settle them! Discolor the different shades of negative, give at least one person the reason they start thinking differently, self-delve, and start the change. You’ll thank me later for saving you from giving anyone a “word attack”, I tell you!

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